THE CYCLE OF HATE
How Can One Evolve In It?
Everyone hates for many reasons, and everyone expresses and releases hatred in unique ways. Some are constructive, and some are not. It is from an unconscious and conscious reaction until they become habits, hate then hate back, thus, the endless mudslinging, bashing, bickering, then outbursts of rage.
Such is one of the sad repetitive cycles we have allowed and still allow. A life story we have created since time immemorial to the present coming from our small individual wars against other individuals to the bigger ones, country vs. another country, and even within ourselves. The tiny sparks then turn to big flames, fires everywhere. Just awful, painful, and a waste of energy, effort, and time.
Why then do we continue to succumb to these?
There are common reasons everyone hates, bashes, and fights:
a. RACE AND CULTURE
Talks about how we’re conditioned and programmed by separation beliefs where we separate ourselves based on our differences in how we look, where we live, how we do things, and live our lives despite belonging to one race… humanity.
b. FAITH/BELIEFS
This refers to when other truths/beliefs are not in alignment with our truth/beliefs, thus, disagreements
c.IMPOSITION
Points to the desire to convert and for others to believe our respective beliefs
d. SUPERIORITY
Refers to the need to be right “My beliefs/truth is much better or truer than your beliefs.”
e. CONFORMITY
This means they must follow the “shoulds and would not”. If not, then one is already an outcast, weird, abnormal, etc.
f. FILLING IN THE VOID
Refers to the fear of being a nobody, being nothing, losing the sense of self, and feeling of powerlessness, thus playing superior over others
g. EMOTIONS
These are the pent-up feelings built over from personal crises, negative thinking, and the stories we keep playing in our minds.
Why are these happening continuously? What is the driving force behind these?
FEAR. FEAR. FEAR. — the opposite of love
Influenced by:
The egotistic belief system refers to I, me, my, mine, and the “small self.”
Fear of being a nobody, insecurity, and inferiority that comes from a place of unworthiness and lack of self-love.
Superiority over others is about having to feel and prove power.
Envy and jealousy refer to the desire to be, do, and have what others are being, doing, and having.
A victim mindset is the feeling of being attacked and paranoid about everything, thus, the need to protect oneself.
Ignorance is an impulse to react because of the lack of knowledge, facts, and understanding.
The focus of attention, unconscious habit, conditioning — negative thoughts and negative state of mind that manifested in the physical
How do we rise from these?
1. Practice breathing exercises.
2. Observe the rising and falling of your emotions rather than letting them get on your nerves.
3. Refocus attention on yourself.
4. Take a pause.
5. Ask yourself these questions:
What hurts me the most that I must hate someone to heal it?
What angers me the most that I have to judge people to justify it?
What annoys me the most that I have to criticize people to calm it?
What is lacking in myself that I must bash someone to fill it up?
What am I avoiding in myself that I have to attack someone to face it?
Why do I hate other people when I do not know them completely?
What is happening to me?
Why do I react this way?
Why am I giving my energy and power to hatred?
6. Be honest with yourself, especially when you need to prove yourself to others. Ask yourself these questions again:
What is this proving something all about despite the knowledge the haters will never change their state of mind? Am I still trying to win and be right?
Is this proving to others a secret desire to convert their hatred to like me back, at least?
What is this “self” concept I am trying to protect?
7. Protect your space and energy and surround yourself with sources of positivity
8. Express, don’t suppress your emotions — be a creator rather than a victim. Create something beneficial out of your experience.
9. Manage your reactions — Why try to hate back where you can create and turn hatred around by not reacting to it but by understanding it and creating a better experience from it?
10. Stay inspired — turn the unpleasant experience around by making it a teaching experience. Focus and find the lesson from it.
11. Change perspective about bashers/haters — as messengers, cheerers, secret admirers, and prodders to bring out the best, light, and greatness in you.
12. Change the game — change the cycle instead of bashing the basher, look through and understand the subject of bashing.
13. Introspect.
14. Stay curious rather than furious.
15. Never waste giving your power away to your haters.
As a creator of your reality, only you can create the environment you want to experience. Everything starts and ends with you.
You are an indestructible being and have the tools of creation: thoughts, words, actions. How are you going to use them?
Let this serve as an open invitation to pause, observe, and ask oneself the same questions enumerated in this post, and when you find your answers, ask yourself another question: WHAT CAN I DO TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF HATE?
